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Living more consciously

The main goal of BrightSide Magazine is to unite people. Uniting means listening to each other, respecting each other and being able to find middle ground, despite contrasting opinions.

Through judging we, separate. Through understanding, we grow.

Doe Zantamata

It’s easy to hate, based on the differences in standards and beliefs. It’s easy to judge, based on the difference in appearances and achievements. But it’s hard to truly understand somebody, despite those the differences.

To be able to understand one another, it’s important to first understand yourself.

consciousness

/ˈkɒnʃəsnɪs/

noun

  1. 1.

the state of being aware of and responsive to one’s surroundings.

  1. 2.

a person’s awareness or perception of something.

When we mention consciousness, we mean awareness of not only your surroundings, but especially of yourself: being able to observe your thoughts, emotions, actions and opinions. Finding out why you think what you think, and do what you do.

Only when we become self-aware, we can stop judging so quickly. Instead, we can start listening, connecting and uniting. 

Understanding yourself is big and it’s a never ending journey. In every BrightSide Magazine edition, we discuss a small portion of what consciousness is and how you can apply it in your life. 

In this magazine, we dive into the power of asking questions. 

Google is a great tool to answer most of your questions. However, some questions Google cannot answer. It cannot give you the insights, important advice or inner peace you might be seeking. The answers and insights regarding this, are already within you. And to find them, you’ll have to go within yourself.

The problem most of us have, is that we do not think about the question, but only about the answer. To find the right answers, it’s a matter of asking the right questions.

Einstein once said:

“If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.”

But I’m not Einstein. True. However, copying methods and ways of thinking from influential and successful people is a great way to grow. Learning from people who are where you want to be, will get where you want to be faster. 

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Why is asking questions important? Great question! Asking questions will get you answers. It’s a method to solve a problem. And a problem is nothing more than a question you don’t have an answer to.

When you bring yourself in a quiet, peaceful environment, fear and insecurity will reduce and clarity and trust will originate. Through this, it’s possible to make decisions consciously and get to the core of a problem you might have. 

Asking questions will also give you more clarity and vision. Below are three incredibly important questions to give you insights about yourself, which will give more direction in life. The answers to these questions give guidance in situations of doubt.

Not everyone reading this will take the time to think about these questions, and write them down. But only when writing them down on paper, without any distractions, answers will come. Find a peaceful space and grab a notebook and a pen. Writing enables a higher level of thinking, and therefore, more focused action. 

It’s very well possible that the first few minutes, nothing gets on paper. Doesn’t matter. Stay focussed, put your phone and other distractions down, and the answers will come eventually. Take as much time as you need to answer the following questions. 

  1. What do I find important in life?

Your personal values influence the choices you make, your thoughts, opinions and the way you respond to people and situations. They are the key to getting to know who you really are.

What are your personal core values? Put the most important value on number 1, etc. Examples include: freedom, love, money, certainty, health, recognition, privacy, trust, inner peace, family gratitude, status, kindness, friendship, comfort, respect, creativity, honesty, power, religion, spirituality, happiness, appearance, personal growth, independence, appreciation, pleasure, social contribution, productivity, luxury, perfection, leadership.

Ask yourself regularly if the choices you make, the thoughts you have and the actions you take are in line with your values.

  1. At which moments do you feel happy?

What do you really enjoy doing or having? When do you experience true happiness?

It may be a sunrise. Or a great cup of coffee. A hug from a specific person or your pet. A good conversation with a friend. Stargazing. Finishing a project. Playing sports. Taking a walk in nature. Reading a good book. Whatever it is for you, write them down. 

Now you know what brings joy to you. Are you doing them enough? If not, what’s holding you back from doing it? Is it impossible to do it more often or could you find another way?

  1. Who are you, really?

Lastly, describe who you are. 

Not the version of you that adapted itself to your environment and social conditioning. Not the way you behave because you want to impress others, or because you’ve built walls around yourself. Maybe you’ve taught yourself to live behind a mask. 

But who is really behind that mask? Who is that beautiful, loving person? Describe your personality and behaviour, including your positive and less positive characteristics.

Over time, the answers to these questions may be different. It’s important to keep reflecting on yourself and repeat these, or similar questions once in a while.

Never underestimate the power of asking questions.